A tip borrowed from the generous husband ~
We all know the usual stereotypes of how men and women think and feel sexually, and in large part most of those have some basis in what is most commonly experienced - but variations are far more common than most of us think. I've heard from men who want more foreplay and women who want very little (because they don't need it and want to get to "the good stuff"). I've heard from men who want to snuggle after, married to a woman who either falls asleep immediately or gets up and does something because sex "energizes" her.
I could give other examples, but the point is men do not all feel, think and act the same way about sex, and neither do women. If what you feel is a bit different than what you think most men feel, it's not a problem unless you get worked up about it. Be honest with her, and work together to find a way to make you each happy with your sex life. Similarly, is it possible she has gone along with the classic female sexual role because she thinks she is supposed to, when in reality a part of that role is not what she wants, feels or enjoys? Give her "permission" to feel differently, to act differently, and to ask to try doing something different.
Think generous! Lori <><
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